One year ago yesterday I got my first hater.
In the online space, clashing of opinions is quite common; especially when there are strong feelings behind them.
My strong feelings of excitement are still present; in fact, they have been reaffirmed time and time again over the course of the year as I continue to limit my physical interactions.
When I wrote the post, I knew my perspective would go against the narrative playing out for many people. Being unaware of the chaos occurring in the world would have been nearly impossible.
Fear was thick in the air; it was palpable even in the small northern community I live in. The internet was an interesting place to spend time my time, with non stop articles appearing everywhere you looked, the topic discussed in every interaction.
It was clear that life would be changed forever, global history was being made right before our eyes.
There was potential for danger, and yet, not everyone needed to be in full on panic mode. Some of us could sill keep things together, to not give into the fear and the state of the world, and use the time to pause, reflect and take it all in.
Was I effected by the situation? Yes 100%!! As an owner and co-owner of two small local based businesses, my work was brought to an abrupt halt.
Gyms and restaurants closed, leaving me at home, like so many others, to try to figure out how to keep doing life, trying to keep in touch with loved ones, and keep ourselves (our mind) occupied so it didn’t go rushing to the worst case scenario we were all being faced with.
And of course it is worth noting how lucky I was, to have the ability to even try working from home, to have a savings in the bank, and a few clients I could see online.
On a deeper level, to have come from a privileged background, brought up by to loving parents who encouraged and supported me to live a healthy lifestyle, with fish caught in the ocean, and vegetables grown in our backyard, where bread was often made on a somewhat regular basis.
These very facts were being used to shame me for feeling excited about the potential for a big change in the way life was lived; where we slow down and appreciate the wonder that is this human experience.
How dare I be excited when there are people dying?
How dare I look towards to the horizon and see hope instead of despair?
Why was I shamed for benefiting from the life I had no choice being born into and the choices I made from that worldview? It says nothing about my beliefs and what my hopes and dreams are for the future.
Why have we become so attached to labels that we miss the chance to have a real conversation? Where we can communicate based on shared understanding by contributing our own personal perspectives rather than jumping to conclusions based on our own assumptions?
I want to move towards less generalized labels and move towards accepting people for who they are, not basing my opinion on just their lived experiences but on wisdom they have gained.
I will never be able to speak from perspectives other than my own, and yet I can still listen to other points of view and hold them both as true. I can be as inclusive and welcoming as I possibly can and do my best to relate to people beyond the body they occupy, and the life they have lived so far.
Shame and tearing down others for sharing their lived experiences does not support expansion of our collective consciousness.
A year ago yesterday I lost my mojo to share my point of view and gave into the public scolding for attempting to uplift others.
Who knows what would have happened if the hater was from a different background that mine, a privileged position, who has a common interest in helping other humans live better lives and was perhaps feeling the weight of the world on their shoulders… which is, of course, another assumption!
I continue to hold space for and send love to those who criticize; I do not know their lived experience, the stress they could be feeling, or the pressure they may be under to keep it all together.
This last year showed me in so many ways how I too needed to slow down, and re-evaluate my direction. It took me since a year ago yesterday to fully commit to where I was going and become so clear on the message I am here to share, via the way I am here to live.
The overarching theme?
It’s holding a vision of the future I want to see; where people don’t get caught up in their fear of living life. Where emotions are felt and MOVED out of the body.
Where they let go of the primal animal instincts of survival mode when they are not in life or death situations.
You know what isn’t supportive for a world going through major growing pains? Being a tangled bunch of nerves, hustling from one thing to the next, feeling shame and guilt about spending time on themselves.
I want to do my best to do the opposite AND hold space for the of others experiences…. because I know there’s a better way.
But only if you are open to finding it within you.
I do not have all the answers; just the answers I found on my own path.
From this point of view I can help uplift those who are stuck to connect to the earth and tap into their Self; not just that nattering voice inside their head.
I want to help ground you into whatever your vision is for your future; create an anchor to your pie in the sky, whatever that looks like for you.
I want to give you permission to think bigger than your current scenario - you are not your critical mind, you are so much bigger and so much more powerful that you will ever know.
How are you feeling?
Are you triggered by my big picture vision, poking holes in my optimism? Good! That voice you are hearing is not you; it’s only the voice that keeps you in the box you are currently in.
You are the one who listens.
I hope you feel inspired to keep holding your own vision for the future. To know that your thoughts, emotions and experiences are valid and can be used as the fuel to take you wherever you want to go.
What vision are you holding?
It would be my honour to help you.
Let's be honest; mornings can be a challenge at best.
But with daylight at it's annual peak, and the summer now upon us, there is no better time to start the day off on the right foot.
Tend to your well-being, get inspired, nourish your body and set the pace for the rest of your day.
1. What's Your WHY
Starting is the hardest part. Let go of your willpower and get deeper into the purpose of this new routine. Follow along with the questions below, writing down your answers:
1. What is your intention with your morning routine?
2. How do you want to FEEL?
3. Why is that important to you?
4. What will that allow you to do?
5. Why is that important to you?
For best results, ask yourself "Why?" a total of five times for questions 3 and 5 :)
2. Make a Plan
If you fail to plan then you are planning to fail. And I admit, this is usually where I slip up!
Once you are clear on your WHY, work backwards with the end in mind. What activities might help you towards your desired outcome?
A couple ideas:
• Movement - walks, runs, strength, mobility
• Writing - gratitude, dreams, morning thoughts, new ideas
• Read - non-fiction, fiction
• Drink your beverage of choice - kick-start your digestion, savour your time
• Meditate - sit in silence, visualize, breath focus
3. Start Small, Go Slow
Once you have a plan it's time to follow through with some action; baby step sized.
Try for a 15 minute timeframe to start off, choosing just one or two activities.
No need to do it all at once! Easing into this lifestyle change will ensure that it is a lasting one.
Mornings are also an excellent time to slow down and soak in the little things. From this heightened awareness you can reflect on what is going really well in your life, envisioning where you want to take it next and in what ways you can make a positive impact on others along the way.
4. Get to Bed Earlier!!
Sleep is IMPORTANT.
It is one of the essential processes our body and mind need in order to function at a basic, let alone optimal, level.
So if you plan on waking up earlier make sure you are winding down and getting to sleep earlier as well.
If you find mornings particularly challenging, try to make as many decisions the night before as possible. Preparing for the next day could also be a part of your winding down process.
This could mean:
• Laying out your (exercise) clothes
• Prepping your breakfast
• Filling your water bottle and/or kettle
• Choosing a workout and/or playlist
• Setting your alarm :)
5. Rinse & Repeat
Once you have chosen the above factors, commit to it for at least 30 days.
Treat it like an experiment and make adjustments as needed.
And if you miss a day or two, no worries! Just jump back into it tomorrow.
Remember, it doesn't need to be perfect; it just needs to get going!!
PS - I’m looking to gather some research!
I work with procrastinators who want to create dedicated time/space for themselves, who know they need to focus more on their health but feel frustrated about continuously starting from scratch.
You may look like you have it all together but on the inside, you are constantly in a state of stress and overwhelm with no clear destination in sight.
If this sounds like you, or someone you know, I’d love for you/them to answer a few questions for me. I want to make sure that what I am creating is on track with where you’re at.
This can totally be confidential if you want, too.
Three Steps to Get Started TODAY
Here we are in a new year AND a new decade.
I hope you have taken some time to review the lessons you've learned from 2019; don't forget to CELEBRATE the heck out of all your wins!!!
What does 2020 hold for you?
What small step can you take TODAY to bring you closer to that goal?
Today we are looking at Three Steps You Can Take TODAY to help get you closer to your 2020 health goals.
1. Decide on What You Want
Even though I am not a huge fan of New Years resolutions, I am a fan setting goals!!
I recommend going through the classic SMART formula which outlines these 5 criteria with the following questions:
• Specific - What details, feelings, etc are apart of this goal?
• Measurable - How will you track your progress?
• Attainable - How close is it to what you're already doing?
• Relevant - Is it aligned with your long term vision?
• Time-Based - When do you want to complete it?
Best to start with goals that are just out of reach, that line up with your values and move you towards POSITIVE outcomes not just away from the negative.
2. Plan Your Next Steps
After you've decided on you specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-based goal you'll need to chunk down your long term goal into smaller portions.
The idea is to end up with daily action items that you can gradually build upon.
It can be helpful to have an outline in place before you get started but you don't need to have every detail figured out.
Allow yourself space to make changes to your plan as you go along. Life happens and you want to make sure you don't throw the baby out with the bathwater by scrapping your entire plan before getting halfway through.
Time for some research!
Figure out what workouts, recipes, etc, you will be trying out first.
There's a TON of information out there which can be a blessing and a curse.
A blessing because we have a lot of choice and a curse because.... we have a lot of choice!
YouTube and Pinterest are my go to platforms for brainstorming ideas as well as planning things out.
For those who want a bit more direction, my Fitness Framework gives an easy-to-follow breakdown of what types of exercise to include in your fitness program.
REMEMBER: big changes take TIME. Try not to overload yourself WITH ALL THE THINGS when you're first starting. Be realistic and honest about where you are with you are RIGHT NOW.
3. Take Action with Support
Sometimes the time and energy it takes to make a change is too much to bare, so we avoid it.
We avoid the reality of being a beginner, to not have all the answers to the problems we face ie getting in some exercise and stay on top of our health.
We KNOW that exercise is good for us; it makes us feel BETTER about pretty much everything.
Why not make this process easier and ask for help?
Humans are social creatures; we often do better with support and accountability from other humans.
It's ok to be challenged at first, but if you are SERIOUS about making change, we don't need to do it alone... If we do, the process takes more time and is way waaaayyyyyyy less fun as it could be.
So find yourself a workout buddy, accountability partner, trainer or coach who can take even just a little bit of the pressure off of you figuring everything out on your own.
Ask your friends about their health goals and how you can support each other.
• Connect for weekly walks, runs, cross-country skis, swims, etc
• Meet up at one of your houses and follow some YouTube workouts
• Go to the gym with your own crafted circuits
• Find a trainer you LOVE and attend her class together ;)
There you have it folks; Happy Changes for all!!
The next Adventure Training set starts Monday, Jan 13th :D
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